Enablement

This is not the usual kind of post I send. However there are so many people out there who have to deal with this problem whether it is from the user or their loved ones. I hope this poem can be of some help to just beginning to tackle addiction.

Should you have an addict friend

Some sage advice I’ll gladly lend:

They’ll plea for poison with all their might,

Keep helping hand far out of sight.

They have a problem they’ll deny,

And your aloofness they’ll decry;

Stay focused but still be their friend,

Contribute not to a sad end.

Addiction’s very hard to break,

So understand a life’s at stake;

Encourage rehab so they might mend,

But enable not or you’re no friend.

Be not judgmental and plainly see

But for God’s good grace could goest ye;

So clearly, plainly understand

Do nor extend an enabling hand.!

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How Privileged Are You? Check off all the statements that apply to you.

I am white.

I have never been discriminated against because of my skin color.

I have never been the only person of my race in a room.

I have never been mocked for my accent.

I have never been told I am attractive “for my race.”

I have never been a victim of violence because of my race.

I have never been called a racial slur.

I have never been told I “sound white.”

A stranger has never asked to touch my hair or asked if it is real.

I am heterosexual.

I have never lied about my sexuality

I never had to “come out.”

I never doubted my parents’ acceptance of my sexuality.

I have never been called “fag.”

I have never been called “dyke.”

I have never been called a “fairy,” or any other derogatory slur for homosexuals.

I have never tried to hide my sexuality.

I am always comfortable with P.D.A. with my partner in public.

I have never pretended to be “just friends” with my significant other.

I have never been ostracized by my religion for my sexual orientation.

I have never been told I would “burn in hell” for my sexual orientation.

I have never been told that my sexuality is “just a phase.”

I have never been violently threatened because of my sexuality.

I am a man.

I feel comfortable in the gender I was born as.

I still identify as the gender I was born in.

I have never tried to change my gender.

I have never been denied an opportunity because of my gender.

I make more money than my professional counterparts of a different gender.

I have never felt unsafe because of my gender.

I have never been catcalled.

I have never been sexually harassed or assaulted.

I have never been raped.

I work in a salaried job.

My family and I have never lived below the poverty line.

I don’t have any student loans.

I have never gone to bed hungry.

I have never been homeless.

My parents pay some of my bills.

My parents pay all of my bills.

I don’t rely on public transportation.

I buy new clothes at least once a month.

I have never done my taxes myself.

I have never felt poor.

I have never had to worry about making rent.

I have never worked as a waiter, barista, bartender, or salesperson.

I have had an unpaid internship.

I have had multiple unpaid internships.

I went to summer camp.

I went to private school.

I graduated high school.

I went to an elite college.

I graduated college.

My parents paid (at least some of) my tuition.

I had a car in high school.

I’ve never had a roommate.

I’ve always had cable.

I have traveled internationally.

I travel internationally at least once a year.

I studied abroad.

I’ve never skipped a meal to save money.

I don’t know what “Sallie Mae” is.

I spent Spring Breaks abroad.

I have frequent flier miles.

My parents are heterosexual.

My parents are both alive.

My parents are still married.

I do not have any physical disabilities.

I do not have any social disabilities.

I do not have any learning disabilities.

I have never had an eating disorder.

I have never been depressed.

I have never considered suicide.

I have never attempted suicide.

I have never taken medication for my mental health.

I can afford medication if/when I need it.

I have never been told I’m overweight or “too skinny.”

I have never felt overweight or underweight or “too skinny.”

I have never been shamed for my body type.

I consider myself to be physically attractive.

I can afford a therapist.

I’ve used prescription drugs recreationally.

I have never had an addiction.

I have never been shamed for my religious beliefs.

I have never been violently threatened for my religious beliefs.

I have never been violently attacked for my religious beliefs.

There is a place of worship for my religion in my town.

I have never lied about my ethnicity as self-defense.

I have never lied about my religion as self-defense.

All my jobs have been accommodating of my religious practices.

I am not nervous in airport security lines.

I have never heard this statement: “You have been randomly selected for secondary passport control.”

I have never been called a terrorist.

Nobody has ever tried to “save” me for my religious beliefs.

I have never been cyber-bullied for any of my identities.

I was not bullied as a child for any of my identities.

I have never tried to distance myself from any of my identities.

I have never been self-conscious about any of my identities.

I have never questioned any of my identities.

I feel privileged because of the identities I was born with.

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How will we set each Other free?

NOT BY TELLING EACH OTHER HOW TO BEHAVE,

OR WHAT TO THINK,

OR WHAT TO BELIEVE,

BUT BY BEING WHERE ONE SHOULD BE, AS MEANT TO BE,

SO THE OTHERS CAN FIND YOU THERE,

AND IN THE FINDING, CAN FIND THEMSELVES.

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Lycopene can be delicious.

Lycopene is a plant nutrient with powerful antioxidant properties. with many health benefits – sun protection, improved heart health and a lower risk of certain types of cancer. It can be found as a supplement but may be most effective when consumed from foods that are naturally rich in it – tomatoes, watermelon, pink grapefruit, and other red or pink fruits. It has been linked to health benefits ranging from heart health to protection against sunburns and certain types of cancers.

Antioxidants protect your body from damage caused by compounds known as free radicals. When free radical levels outnumber antioxidant levels, they can create oxidative stress in your body. This stress is linked to certain chronic diseases, such as cancer, diabetes, heart disease and Alzheimer’s.

Research shows that lycopene’s antioxidant properties can help keep free radical levels in balance, protecting your body against some of these conditions.

In addition, test-tube and animal studies show that lycopene may protect your body against damage caused by pesticides, herbicides, monosodium glutamate and certain types of fungi.

May Protect Against Certain Types of Cancer

For instance, test-tube studies show that the nutrient may slow down the growth of breast and prostate cancers by limiting tumor growth. Animal studies further report that it may prevent the growth of cancer cells in the kidneys. In humans, observational studies link high intakes of carotenoids, including lycopene, to a 32–50% lower risk of lung and prostate cancers.

A 23-year study in more than 46,000 men found that men who consumed at least two servings of lycopene-rich tomato sauce per week were 30% less likely to develop prostate cancer than those who ate less than one serving of tomato sauce per month. A recent review of 26 studies found more moderate results. Researchers linked high lycopene intakes to a 9% lower likelihood of developing prostate cancer. Daily intakes of 9–21 mg per day appeared most beneficial.

May Promote Heart Health

Lycopene may also help lower your risk of developing or prematurely dying from heart disease. That’s in part because it may reduce heart disease risk factors. More specifically, it may reduce free-radical damage, total and “bad” LDL cholesterol levels and increase “good” HDL cholesterol. High blood levels of lycopene may also add years to the lives of people with a combination of health conditions that can lead to heart disease. Over a 10-year period, researchers noted that individuals with that condition who had the highest blood lycopene levels had up to a 39% lower risk of dying prematurely. In another 10-year study, diets rich in this nutrient were linked to a 17–26% lower risk of heart disease. A recent review further associates high blood levels of lycopene with a 31% lower risk of stroke. Lycopene’s protective effects appear particularly beneficial to those with low blood antioxidant levels or high levels of oxidative stress. This includes older adults and people who smoke or have diabetes or heart disease.

May Protect Against Sunburn: Lycopene also appears to offer some protection against the damaging effects of the sun. In one small 12-week study, participants were exposed to UV rays before and after consuming either 16 mg of lycopene from tomato paste or a placebo. Participants in the tomato paste group had less severe skin reactions to the UV exposure.

Food Sources

Must have a rich pink to red color generally contain some lycopene. Tomatoes are the biggest food source, and the riper the tomato, the more lycopene it contains. Sun-dried tomatoes: 45.9 mg

Tomato purée  Guava  Watermelon  Fresh tomatoes  Canned tomatoes  Papaya  Pink grapefruit:  cooked sweet red peppers

Lycopene Supplements: Lycopene can be taken in supplement form. However, it may interact with certain medications, including blood thinners and blood-pressure lowering medications. One small study also found that 2 mg of daily lycopene supplements during pregnancy could increase your risk of preterm labor or low birth weight. In these cases , please speak to your doctor if you need help deciding whether to take Lycopene.

Hello, again, It’s Been A While

I am so sorry that I have not been here for a while. But I am sure you will understand.

I was in the hospital. I fell in my house and smashed up my face, including my nose.

I don’t know how it happened, but I must have tripped over something on the floor. I went flying right into the wall. Everything in my hand also went up in the air.

Please don’t worry, I am fine now. My ‘just got out of the boxing ring black marks’ are almost all gone.

I will be back very soon with Healthy Eating or Random Thoughts.

I Am Baaack—or at least I hope so.

I have been in the hospital. I fell in my house and smashed up my face. I don’t know why or how it happened, but I smashed it up face really well. In fact, I could have been in a boxing ring!

Thank goodness nothing was broken but my face was twice its normal size in a few areas.

I am not allowed to do much, so I will not be posting until hopefully next week.

In the meantime please think about any questions you might want to ask. I would love to have that ready to start with.

Please stay well and take care of yourself. We’ll be back to Healthy Eating or Random Thoughts soon.

PS: I am not posting my picture.

My Early Mother’s Day Gift.

THANKS SARAH AND RICKY

Black Beans are Good for You

Black beans are classified as legumes. They are in fact, the edible seeds of the plant. Like others, such as peanuts, peas, and lentils, black beans are prized for their high protein and fiber content. They also contain several other key vitamins and minerals that are known to benefit human health. Among other benefits, black beans may help strengthen bones. Black beans contain quercetin and saponins which can protect the heart. The iron, phosphorus, calciummagnesium, manganese, copper, and zinc in black beans all contribute to building and maintaining bone structure and strength. Black beans are high in protein and fiber.

Calcium and phosphorus are important in bone structure, while iron and zinc play crucial roles in maintaining the strength and elasticity of bones and joints. Roughly 99 percent of the body’s calcium supply, 60 percent of its magnesium, and 80 percent of its phosphorus stores are contained in bone. This means it is extremely important to get enough of these nutrients from the diet. Maintaining a low sodium intake is essential for keeping blood pressure at a normal level. Black beans are naturally low in sodium and contain potassium, calcium, and magnesium, all of which have been found to decrease blood pressure naturally.

Studies have shown that individuals with type 1 diabetes who consume high-fiber diets have lower blood glucose levels. Additionally, people with type 2 diabetes may have improved blood sugar, lipids, and insulin levels. One cup, or 172 grams (g), of cooked black beans contributes 15 g of fiber. The United States Food and Drug Administration (FDA) recommends 25 g of fiber per day based on a 2,000-calorie diet. This may vary depending on overall intake of calories.

The fiber, potassium, folate, vitamin B6, and phytonutrient content of black beans, coupled with its lack of cholesterol, all support heart health. This fiber helps lower the total amount of cholesterol in the blood and decrease the risk of heart disease. Vitamin B6 and folate prevent the buildup of homocysteine. When excessive amounts of homocysteine accumulate in the body, it can damage blood vessels and lead to heart problems. The quercetin and saponins found in black beans also aid in cardioprotection. Quercetin is a natural anti-inflammatory that appears to reduce the risk of atherosclerosis and protect against the damage caused by low-density lipoprotein (LDL) cholesterol. Research also indicates that saponins help lower blood lipid and blood cholesterol levels, which prevents damage to the heart and blood vessels.
Selenium is a mineral that is not present in most fruits and vegetables but can be found in black beans. It plays a role in liver enzyme function and helps detoxify some cancer-causing compounds in the body. Additionally, selenium may prevent inflammation and decreases tumor growth rates. Saponins prevent cancer cells from multiplying and spreading throughout the body. Fiber intakes from fruits and vegetables like black beans are associated with a lowered risk of colorectal cancer. Black beans are high in folate, which plays a role in DNA synthesis and repair, thus preventing the formation of cancer cells from mutations in the DNA.
Because of their fiber content, black beans help to prevent constipation and promote regularity for a healthy digestive tract. They provide fuel for the healthy bacteria in the colon. Dietary fiber is recognized as an important factor in weight loss and management. High fiber foods increase the sense of fullness after eating and reduce appetite, making an individual feel fuller for longer, thereby lowering overall calorie intake. Many studies have suggested that increasing consumption of plant foods like black beans decreases the risk of obesitydiabetes, heart disease, and overall mortality while promoting a healthy complexion and hair, increased energy, and overall lower weight.

Black Bean Soup

1 pound black beans 1/3 bay leaf 1 Large onion, sliced Salt to taste A few cloves chopped garlic 1 tsp. dry mustard powder.

Wash beans well & soak for 8 hrs. Place beans and liquid in large saucepan with bay leaf, bring to a boil over high heat. Skim off foam, lower heat and simmer partially covered till beans are tender, about 1 hour.

Add onion & cook 1 hour. Add salt and garlic. Cook, adding boiling water if necessary until beans are very soft and start to melt into liquid 1-2 hrs. more.

Remove bay leaf, turn off heat. Ladle beans into batches and puree in blender. Add dry mustard powder and dry sherry. Correct seasonings. Reheat and serve, adding ant garnishes you wish – slices of lemon, freshly chopped herbs, etc. AND ENJOY

Random Thoughts I wrote Long Ago

  1. The Temple of Isis is a temple of gold where we heal with sound and light. We pray to God for one and all in the hope we make things right.

2. I cook, clean and sweat all day. I’m only fourteen but there’s no time to play. I have no rights, I must obey or I will be beaten and sent away. Who am I and why am I here. What is it I am to do? Why can’t I speak up, why can’t I be heard, I am a person, too.

3. On the Versailles balcony looking over the formal gardens I sit and play I line up my toy soldiers, then knock them down as my nurse watches a blue jay. As part of the royal court I have many restrictions and must watch what I do. I can’t run or jump or yell, or sing as loud as the bell from the church across the way. But I’ve been told I will be running the country one day.

4. Father Guido prays in his own way to help right some of the wrongs as Isis’s vibrations fill the air with color and light and songs. People come here wanting to be healed, they bring their cares and woes. They beat on their chests just like the animals do and tell me of all their foes. I’m a man of God but still just a man and they ask so much of me. Who am I? Not what they see. I can only be who I can be.

Star, the best dog ever!

Eggplant Good or Bad

Eggplant is a high-fiber, low- calorie food that is rich in nutrients and comes with many potential health benefits. From reducing the risk of heart disease to helping with blood sugar control and weight loss, eggplants are a simple and delicious addition to any healthy diet.

Eggplants are part of the nightshade family. Nightshades contain alkaloids, including solanine, which can be toxic. Solanine protects these plants while they are still developing. Eating the leaves or tubers of these plants can lead to symptoms such as burning in the throat, nausea and vomiting, and heart arrhythmias.

But if you are able…. Here is a great recipe.

18 oz. Roma tomatoes or artichokes 8 oz. eggplant 1 onion garlic

2 tbs. extra virgin olive oil Salt and Pepper 1 cup short grain brown rice 1 cup unsweetened Almond Milk 1/4 cup slivered almonds Fresh Basil

Heat the oven to 425. Rinse, trim, and thinly slice tomatoes and eggplant Chop the onion Trim and peel 4 garlic cloves. Put vegetables in a small baking dish with 2 tbsp. oil and a sprinkle of salt and pepper; toss to coat and spread into a single layer. Roast, stirring once or twice until the veggies are tender and browned in places, 30 to 45 minutes.

Meanwhile, put the rice in a medium saucepan with the almond milk, 1 cup water, a pinch of salt and bring to boil. Reduce heat until it bubbles steadily; cover and cook undisturbed until the rice is tender and liquid almost absorbed, 20 to 25 minutes. Fluff the rice with a fork, cover the pan and remove it from the heat.

When the veggies are done, remove the pan from the oven and turn on the broiler. Add the rice to the veggies and mash a little with a fork to make the mixture creamy; taste and adjust seasonings. Top the gratin with the almonds and broil , watching like a hawk until they begin to brown, 1 to 3 minutes.